You know that overwhelming feeling: "I think I'm not quite doing this right, but I'm not sure what I'm missing?" I'm confident taping sessions and watching them back is the only way to turn that overwhelming feeling into an action plan.

Here's where we as EFT therapists can get stuck: when everything about the content of a session screams attachment! We want to set up conversations that help communicate attachment longings and fears - bonding conversations. It's so tempting to stay with the content when a client is "saying the right thing."

As you navigate a couple's dance, trying to understand exactly what they experience - the moves they make and why they make them, they can't help but do the same dance right there in front of you!

On the first frame, I got a strike. I did pretty well for a while, and then I got too in my head and started getting gutter balls. I just can't.