“Emotion is the messenger of love. It is the vehicle that carries signal from one brimming heart to another…”

Why are we afraid to interrupt? (Everyone is, by the way)

Have you ever been a client? Have you ever sat in a waiting room?

In school we heard that we need to take ourself out of the therapy room. Don't touch your client, don't disclose anything and don't make it about you. Yes and no.

We genuinely care. We want to help others. We don't take seriously the toll this kind of work has on us.

Let me help you get some bang for your buck. If you're in EFT Supervision, or thinking about it - here are some tips to help you prepare:

Wouldn't it be great if EFT could give you a hug? Just reassure you that you're ok just as you are? Maybe that's what we need to do for each other as we learn this model.

What's really counter-intuitive is that we have to go to the present to mend the past.

I don't think you have to leave
If to change is what you need
You can change right next to me
When you're high, I'll take the lows
You can ebb and I can flow
And we'll take it slow
And grow as we go

EFT therapists attune to themselves and their clients to respond and bring into harmony an emotional experience.

Go ahead and send it across anyway. You'll get a block and maybe what they need more than anything is your response to it.

Hi. My name is Kelly and I'm a pursuer. Recovering, of course.

We heard in grad school the very cunning ways of how to “go in through the back door.”

We BOLDLY go to the places our couples don’t want to go.

When you are bonded, that bond is in the very fabric of your being. Physical death is something the heart can't understand, or accept. The physical presence leaves, but the bond stays and your brain can't make the separation so quickly.

If clients can't make the connection between real life (protective behaviors/reactive emotion) and the "new conversation" (therapy - slow and safe), then they'll never actually get to second order change.

As I listened more, it dawned on me that we EFTers always say, "Go slow" and I think (especially for stage 1), we need to change that to "Go boldly IN" - it's a really active move for the therapist. Slow has a passive connotation.

I used to hide the fact that I'm hearing impaired. I wouldn't say I was ashamed of it, I just didn't want it to be a focus. I've always wanted to be "normal." Well. Guess what? I'm not normal - and it's a good thing! (That only came after my own therapy).

A reflection - with emphasis on attachment and emotion is a skill that takes years to perfect, but also the simplest, most effective way of being with your client. Only then, can we intervene and ask a question or help link to action tendency.

"You've always been alone, just as me."
"You know shame like me."
"You're afraid just like me."
"You long for closeness just like me."