It seems to me that people who transition to business coaching out of therapy are just burnt out by therapy. And they're telling you how you too can not be a therapist.

This summer, my family obliged to the 7 year old’s request. Yes Day.

How many times have you spent way too long with one partner, trying to get something a little less blamey, a little more primary and at least a tad vulnerable?

Getting stuck in content is like trying to choose a paint color.

Somewhere along the way, EFTers got the message that in order to help couples engage with themselves and each other - they need to process negative emotions.

EFT draws therapists in like a good love story.

I was watching a tape of a supervisee of mine and the sound was very faint. I could barely make out the client or therapist words, but I could hear the cadence.

"Am I doing EFT?" What is that question, even?

What's "Move One" you ask? Well, it actually gets confusing. There's a Stage 1, Step 1 and Move 1.

I have a beautiful client that said a beautiful thing.

Intuition combined with structure equals EFT magic.

"What?! I don't have a back-up career. I live and breathe therapy. It's who I am. You can't separate me from it."

Really?

Kathryn Rheem (EFT Trainer) once said that withdrawer's (avoidant attachment strategy) have a higher mountain to climb.

Are you forgetting to help clients link their action tendency to the attachment intent (and softer emotion)?

I got stuck in my head on Monday. I was starting a 3-day intensive with a couple in crisis. I know from experience that day one is always the hardest.

The tango. This is your life line. It's the mini-map for every session.

Reflections aren't just for validation - they're to seed attachment. It's a language your client forgot.

People learning EFT often make it their goal to get a primary emotion. If you make this your goal (especially in stage 1), you will be frustrated and your clients might start to placate you (give you a feelings word so you'll back off).

A lot of us want to "make it better" or push people to where we want them to be, instead of trusting the blocks and leaning into them.

In Bossy Pants, Tina (I'll call her by her first name because she really feels like my friend) writes about the rules of improv. She makes the point that the rules of improv are also a great way to live.